YOUTH MINISTRY MINUTE

Teaching Teens That

Words Matter

It seems like the world just doesn’t care how perverse language has become. Profanity and put-downs have become the normal language of many teenagers, including some Christian teens. A survey of public high school students found that more than 75 percent reported hearing so-called adult language frequently in the halls and cafeteria (boston.com). Whether from a best friend, favorite celebrity, Don Imus, or even from the U.S. Senate floor, teens are learning that once taboo four-letter words and derogatory statements can be used at any time and at any place. Some Parents have even become more lax in dealing with cussing. Thoughts may cross their minds such as, "Cussing and language are the least of my worries. I’ve got bigger issues to worry about than that." If you have this attitude, remember that little "worries" will eventually become big ones if not dealt with properly. As you begin talking to your teen about his or her speech, here are some areas on which to focus. Cussing does not equal "cool". In fact, profanity gives off the perception of being unintelligent, unimaginative, and just status quo. This might be harsh, but it is the truth. Help your teen understand there is a link between cussing and moods. Foul language is hostile, and using it actually can increase angry feelings. In turn, feeling angry makes swearing more prone to happen again, and the vicious cycle continues. Help your teen find alternative words to express emotions. Remember, a scrambled version of a four letter word is not an option, so pick a nicer word that might help change their mood more quickly. Ultimately, parents must set the example by what is said, watched, and listened to. Finally, the most important thing that can be done is prayer. Pray your teen will have a pure heart as well as a pure tongue.

Reprint from TheParentLink June 2007

Check out the youth website at www.ecuccyouth.org

Please check the bulletin board at church each week for activities!